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When You Are See Sawing Between The 3rd and 5th Dimension: What To Do?

June 3, 2013 By Leave a Comment

 

Feel like you are on teetering between dimensions? Since our separation from the 3D world in December 2012 it has been an interesting journey walking the bridge to the 5D New Earth and grounding into higher frequencies.

One minute it feels like you are basking in the vibes of the 5th dimension and then suddenly you are back in the depths of polarity and density. A minute later you are on the bridge of the 4th dimension heading back to New Earth grounding. What seems like wild swings are very common amongst conscious creators at this time.

We are on a journey of purging limitation and density;  all of the old outdated information and programming. When we let go we settle into a new vibration ready to get comfortable and then wham another layer of stuff comes up. For most this pattern will continue until the end the end of 2015 when all of our inner work and focus on expansion will take hold and root in a more stable and exciting way.

In the meantime we have waves of different energies to navigate. One factor influencing this see sawing behavior is that as we pull away from the 3rd dimension we become more acutely aware of what the 3D world was all about; greed, control, domination, polarity and we don’t like it. Because of our new awareness when we encounter these energies head on or in our peripheral view it makes us uncomfortable.

You feel it and notice at work, family gatherings, with friends, places you visit or frequent. Your personal antennas are zeroing on a new frequency ~the 5th dimension ~ and when you hear and experience static from the 3rd dimension it’s grating.

During the shift from 3D to 5D we are also undergoing a massive  shift within ourselves mind, body and emotional systems. As we move into expanded consciousness and vibrations we are experiencing ego resistance. Our ego does not want to lose control. It does not want us to become more conscious. As we change our vibration and move into higher frequencies opening to more consciousness the power of our ego diminishes and we feel its terror and push for domination inside of ourselves. This push pull is what much of the see sawing is all about; ego resistance.  We move forward with intentions of claiming back our mind and body and the ego is pulling out all the stops to pull us back into the mire.  It does not want to lose control.

Don’t worry sweet being you are so much more then your ego and with the right approach, focus and attitude that resistance will wane and the push pull will settle down.  In the meantime stay focused on your journey and stand in your power.

In addition as we walk along the 4D bridge to the 5th Dimension New Earth some of our own personal stuff is getting triggered and sabotages our progress. We feel we are taking a step back when our stuff comes up but the blessing is that all of this stuff  is forcing us to be more conscious, look at it, learn, grow and transmute it. We continue to move through a personal process of clearing out the old to embrace the new.

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What is all of this sabotaging energy spewing forth?

  • old outdated and limiting beliefs
  • limiting patterns and behaviors
  • other people’s energy that is lingering about
  • power leaks in our physical and energy body
  • lessons not learned or learned but not applied

What To Do When You Feel The See Saw between the 3D-5D worlds?

  1. Do your inner work and continue to clear and release limitation.
  2. Let go of other people’s energy lingering in your field.
  3. Learn the lessons and apply them. Often people intellectually get the lessons but don’t put them into play.
  4. Ground into the 5D New Earth energy daily with meditation or intention–root in.
  5. When you feel yourself see sawing focus on a more expansive vibrations and bring them into your field. Connect with the energy of love, joy, peace and flood your body with the high vibes. Be with nature. Listen to beautiful music. Play and have fun.
  6. Breath. The breath moves energy and deep breathing will help you to access the stillness inside.
  7. Put yourself into the Quantum Vortex Spin –connect with zero point and spin out the lower vibrations.

As we transition more fully into our light bodies the ego will blend into the background, the outside noise and interference will subside and you will find yourself spending more and more time in the 5D world. Then  one day you will wake up and realize you are fully living in the New Earth energy.

 ~Love, Esther

 

 

 

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Reader’s Question: I have noticed an uptick in violence these past weeks/month. What can we infer, if anything about the violence?

May 21, 2013 By Leave a Comment

 

Reader’s Question:  I have noticed an uptick in violence these past weeks/month.  What can we infer if anything about the violence?   S. California

Esther Offers A Perspective: There has always been violence and unrest in the world. With modern technology and instant access to images, words and experiences of events the violence and unrest is heightened. And yes I do appreciate the prompting of the question at this time.

Here are two perspectives I would like to extend to you for consideration regarding what is happening on the planet.

1. In December 2012 we experienced a big shift on Earth and across the cosmos. The shift into the 5th Dimension and higher vibrations is welcomed by some people creating joy and forward movement, in others discomfort and unrest. As souls awaken to higher consciousness at a rapid pace there are those who are fighting the energy and the change. For the most part these are the people who flourished in the 3rd dimension energy, a space of I win you lose, competition, money is everything, greed and an It’s all about me attitude.

The people who vibrate with these less expansive energies are doing their very best to hold onto them. They feel out of sync and uncomfortable with the new higher frequencies. They are losing power, recognition, position and authority  as the world breaks free of density and moves higher. Think of the banks, government officials, Bay Street, Wall Street, companies and people around you who have had secrets revealed over the last few years. Those who are fighting the change or who don’t understand it are creating these tense energies across the globe. And it is all coming to a head now that we have shifted into the New Earth energies. There is a battle happening right now between humans rising up in vibration and frequency into a space of love and oneness void of  polarity and those who on a subconscious level are saying to themselves: 3D works for me and I am not giving it up.

2. The other aspect of this is that if you are being bombarded with images, news, talk of violence and unrest then on some level  you are resonating with it. Are you  glued to the TV or computer watching tragic events unfold for entertainment? Do you speak of these situations extensively in conversation with others? Are you watching violent movies and TV shows? 

Personally while I am aware of events of tragedy and concern happening around the world I keep it outside of my field. When the news reporter says, “Up next we are going to interview the school mate of the best friend of the killer,” I check in with myself to see if I really want to drag this into my energy field. I know the more I focus upon the energy of violence the more I will notice it everywhere in my life. And when that happens I will draw the experience of that energy into my reality.

I am not suggesting that you can’t be aware of world or local events and situations but the constant focus, worry and concern about them suggests something deeper is being triggered inside of you.

If at every turn you encounter an angry driver, a sully store clerk, a nasty email and are glued to news channels replaying fear, anger and death and destruction  then ask inside: What inside of me is resonating with this? What lesson do I need to learn to release this from my field so that I can be aware of it but not draw it into my reality? What energy is pulling me towards it and the violence to me?

Perhaps a layer of anger from the past is coming up for exploration and release. Or maybe a past life resonance is being unearthed with the message: It is time to let go of this energetic carry over. Unresolved issues, stuck emotions, memories may be surfacing for clearing so that you can move forward.

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If I have a day when I encounter a moody person at the gym, complaining grocery clerk, people gossiping next to me, sirens and accidents on the road and computer malfunctions I stop and ask myself: What is happening inside of me to create and attract this? I always find some limiting belief or stuck energy. Perhaps an unresolved issue with a friend or colleague or even a self judgment at the root of it all. My “reality” is reflecting what is happening inside of me.

If you find you are noticing war, violence, unrest in your world and an uptick at that, do your inner work and exploration around these issues and take conscious steps to place your focus on the beauty, joy and love of everything that is around you. Rather then watch the news for hours and hours replaying the same information with the same interviews watch a comedy, gaze out the window at the tree, the sky or my favorite the moon. When your conversation with friends turns to a analysis of the latest tragic event be the one to switch the topic to something light and/or more meaningful.

Again this does not mean sticking your head in the sand and being unaware of what is happening in the world. It’s about changing your focus and resonance and drawing into your reality something that is in alignment with your dreams and desires. You are the creator of your life and world.

~Love, Esther

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Did I Choose The Wrong Mother: Feeling Conflicted Over Mother’s Day?

May 12, 2013 By Leave a Comment

Let’s face it, not everyone grew up with a mom that they love and adore. Not everyone is excited about honoring their mom on Mother’s Day. Many people have a dysfunctional mom wound which is wide open and festering.

In my psychotherapy practice I encounter on a regular basis people who have mom issues. Sometimes it was mom not being there for them. Other times it was mom turning a blind eye to such things like abuse. For some people it was the cutting words, glares and gestures from mom that they hold onto and remember.  Others grew up with a fabulous mom but their own perceptions and beliefs have her ranking low on the pole.

I too at one time had mom issues. I felt unloved, unwanted and abandoned by my mother. I felt she cared for my sisters more then me. I was angry at her for influencing me with limiting and negative behaviors and beliefs about food and body image. I resented that she wasn’t a “traditional mom” who baked cookies and cooked Sunday dinner. I was angry at her for leaving my dad and breaking up our family. The list goes on and on.

For the longest time I didn’t feel like honoring mom on Mother’s Day. So if you find yourself in this position, I get it. No judgment here.698517_dancing

 So what do you do when Mother’s Day rolls around and you aren’t feeling in the spirit of honoring her?

Here are my suggestions:

Begin to look at mom as a spirit who is playing a specific role for you. Understanding and learning the concept that mom has had a helping hand in the lessons you came to learn in this lifetime goes a long way in healing self. As I look back at how I grew and what I learned from my childhood experiences, I now know that all was in perfect order. While it was painful at the time, I am a better person for it. My mom was perfectly chosen by me for me growth and learning.

Extend Forgiveness. Forgive mom for all that you feel she has done and forgive yourself for being angry towards her. When working with my clients on their mom issues all come to a place of understanding within themselves that mom was doing the best she could with the knowledge, ability and beliefs she held and in some instances continues to hold. They end up by expressing and feeling sympathy towards her rather then anger.

The most important step when faced with this quandary of not wanting to honor mom, is to begin working on yourself and healing yourself from the inside out. When you begin to heal and release the memories, thoughts, patterns, beliefs, emotions which came from mom and were absorbed into your being you’ll feel better and everything will begin to change. I promise.

We can’t change the past and we can’t change mom. But we can change how we respond, feel and reminisce about our past experiences regarding mom. When we change ourselves on the inside something miraculous happens, we begin to effect change to those around us, including mom. If by chance mom doesn’t come around, at the very least you have freed yourself from the angst you have been holding inside of yourself. That’s a big thumbs up in my book.

I’m happy to report that my mom and I now have a beautiful relationship. It’s still not the traditional mom and daughter relationship, I had to let that longing go. As I shifted my inner world and began to accept mom as she is, not expecting anything different, a peace and an ease came over me and us as a duo. Today we love each other dearly in our own special way.

On Mother’s Day if you don’t feel like honoring mom, that’s okay. If you want to change that feeling begin to take these steps. There is hope for a different and brighter future. You chose the right mom!

~Love, Esther

 

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What Are You Waiting For?

April 16, 2013 By Leave a Comment

 

What are you waiting for that if you stopped waiting for it would open the door, allow the  winds of the Universe to blow through and usher in that very thing you are waiting for?

When we hold ourselves in a pattern of waiting we are caught up in an energy of putting off our dreams and desires. We create a lag time toward fulfillment and sometimes that lag time lingers on and on and on.

So what are you waiting for that if you stopped waiting for it would bring into your reality that very thing you are waiting for?

Play with me for a minute and pick one thing that you want to create in your life. Maybe it’s embarking on a trip of a lifetime, taking a class, writing a book, buying a home, releasing a person or situation, moving location, starting a business, asking for a promotion, beginning a fitness regime, making that phone call, more money or meeting a special someone.

Once you have picked your desire, silently on the inside of yourself ask: What am I waiting for that if I stopped waiting for it would bring into my reality this _______ that I desire.

Observe what happens. Often our minds will kick in with all kinds of answers. These answers are your blocks and limitations to creating what you want. Observe and make note of them. Do your inner work, clear and release. Then go underneath those mind thoughts. Ask yourself the question again: What am I waiting for that if I stopped waiting for it would bring into my experience that thing I am waiting for?

Now watch what happens. Note how your body responds, what feelings and emotions arise. Perhaps more words and thoughts emerge from your brain. Or does your Inner Being begin to whisper to you? Keep asking yourself this question allowing deeper levels of limitation to come forward for clearing. When you have a challenge letting something go do the inner work to unravel that web of density.

If you keep asking yourself this question Spirit/Universe will offer its perspective for your growth and learning. And once you clear all of the layers at hand the door will open, the winds of the Universe will blow through and that very thing you are waiting for will appear because you are no longer in the energy of waiting. You are now in the energy of receiving because you are in alignment with that thing you desire.

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Most people when they ask themselves this question come up with: I am waiting to be ready. What does that mean specifically to you? Yes perhaps you may have a step or two to set into motion, do them and if you find yourself stalling there is a block at hand but sweetness you are ready. If you have a desire for something the time is now. Take the step and let Universe guide you along the way.

Are you waiting to lose 10 pound before you meet your special guy/girl? Are you waiting for everything to be “perfect” before you start your new venture? Are you waiting for the money to come in, the kids to be older, the right timing?

What if you never lose the 10 pounds, have all of your ducks lined up in a row, the money doesn’t show up, the right timing never appears, the perfect conditions don’t manifest? Then according to your mindset you will never allow that thing you desire to come in.

Here’s an example. Let’s say for as long as you can remember you have wanted to take trip to a destination that has captured your heart and attention. But you haven’t made the move to take this trip because you are waiting for things to slow down at work, extra money to come in, the kids to get older, your body to get into shape, a partner to experience the trip with,  a knowing that your elderly parents are going to be okay while you are gone. Look at all the roadblocks you have placed in the path of creating that desire. Until all of those blocks are knocked down the chances of you taking that trip of lifetime is slim to nil.

By asking yourself the question you begin to create awareness of what is holding you back. When you create awareness you have choice. You get to choose if you are going to do something about it and make change or not. If you choose to do nothing then the knowledge of those blocks will nag at you until you do and that’s not always a comfortable position to be in.

But oh sweet being when you clear the blocks, limitations, beliefs, thoughts and preconceived notions the energy which has you waiting dissolves, the door flings open and what you want enters into your experience  saying:  I’ve been waiting for you. What took you so long?

~Love, Esther

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Are You Looking For “The” Answer? Stop

March 27, 2013 By Leave a Comment

 

Stop looking for “the” answer. There is no one size fits all answer.

As individuals there are answers unique to each of us.

Instead focus on choice.

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We are moving toward a world, a universe and energetic field in which there are no answers only choice.

In fact that  reality already exists, we as humanity are just now awakening to this knowledge as we break free from the 3D world and constructs.

Many people drive themselves batty searching and looking for that one true answer. At one time that was me.

Imagine for a moment if there wasn’t one true answer just choice.

Does that feel light or heavy to you?

Light right?

That means it is lining up with your inner knowing. Your Inner Self knows there is freedom and ease in choice.

Looking for “the” answer carries with it the energy of struggle, uncertainly, doubt, rigidness and the question of, “What if I am wrong?” That’s heavy energy.

Instead ask questions to the Universe. My favorites are: What is possible? What would it take to _____?

Then back away from the question. Thank your cognitive mind for rushing forward with one of its programmed answers and then watch for what Universe presents to you. It could take seconds, minutes, days or even a few weeks but Universe will present options and choices, awareness and understanding.

Then you choose based on your desires and what feels right and light for you.

Because if it feels right and light that is your Inner Self saying. “Yes this feels good. This information resonates. There is something here for us.”

So sweet being stop looking for “the” answer instead may I suggest that you start asking questions, watch what presents and then choose.

~Love, Esther

 

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What To Do When You Ask Your Mind For Answers And It’s Got Nothing

March 15, 2013 By Leave a Comment

When you ask your mind. “What street do I live on?” Does it answer you correctly and with confidence?

Of course it does because the mind stores and knows that information.

If you asked your mind, “What color is my top? What is my last name? What is my date of birth? What does 2+2 equal?” How does it answer? Confidently and correctly right?

That’s because you are asking your mind things that it knows and that it is good at keeping track of. Your mind is a computer, what you put in it is what comes out.

Now pick an area of your life where you are stuck.  Perhaps it is finances, relationships, health, body, success, creativity, a talent or ability.

Notice how you keep going to your mind to get an answer on how to fix the situation, but it has nothing? It has nothing new to offer you. It just rehashes the same old stuff that never worked before or worked but is now old and outdated. The mind might even tell you to stop wanting what you want because it will never happen for various reasons.

Your mind is a computer. It is a storage container rather then a generator of new thought. It is programmed with information from your past whether from this life or past lifetimes. It is programmed with beliefs, thoughts, decisions, conclusions, judgments, other people’s opinions. There is no new information here.

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The new information, the answer to your question, the inspiration you seek comes from within from your Inner Self or Being. It comes from Source Energy God The Universe. It does not come from your mind.

Going back to the mind for answers that it doesn’t have or for information that may be limiting old and outdated is like walking up to a complete stranger and demanding them to tell you what your middle name is and expecting an immediate correct answer.

Why do we keep going back to the mind for answers? Because it is our pattern. It was what we were taught to do. Many of us grew up with the belief that the mind knows. And it does know many things just not the answers you need to break free of  the limitations in your mind.

For that you need to go elsewhere. And where is that elsewhere? It is to infinite wisdom. That’s your Inner Self and Being. That is the Universe of which you are a spark of. Go to the Source rather than that old outdated computer that needs a reboot or new software. The information you seek will come in a variety of ways. Your job is to ask and be open to receive.

Reflect for a moment on that one area of your life where you keep asking your mind:” What can I do? What is the answer? How can I fix this?” And you get nothing or as I mentioned bad, outdated information.

It’s frustrating isn’t it? Going to the mind for answers it doesn’t have is defeating, discouraging and down right depressing.

Now take that same area of your life where you are stuck and start asking your Inner Being for assistance and new information. Ask Source Energy your Creator God for help and direction. The guidance and direction might come in seconds or minutes, hours or even a few days later but it will come. Because when you go within, when you connect with Source Energy you have access to all knowledge and the wisdom of the world.

~Love, Esther

 

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You Will Never Fail At Anything You Truly Want

March 11, 2013 By 2 Comments

 

When you want something with every fiber of your being, that thing you want you create. If you have fallen short of creating your desire most likely some part of you isn’t on board with the creation.

It’s a challenging concept –how can I want something so much and not want it at the same time? So let’s create some conscious awareness around the idea in trust that space will open up, something will click  and you can move forward creating your desires.

Think back to a time when you desired or wanted something and you achieved your wanting. If you get honest with yourself you will recall that there was a defining moment when you said to yourself something  to the following, “No matter what I am going to ____. Nothing is going to stop me from getting _____. Enough is enough I am through with ____ and I am going for _____.”

Now think back to a time when you wanted to draw something into your experience and it never showed up. Again get honest with yourself. Were any of the following energies present consciously or subconsciously?:  fear of change, fear of the unknown, it was someone else’s desire not yours, you weren’t willing to move out of your comfort zone, in some strange way that thing you wanted was going to create a change in your life you decided you weren’t ready for it, you weren’t willing to take the inspired action to create that desire.

Allow me to share this example from my own personal journey.  One of the themes of my life journey is self love and I am constantly taking myself to deeper levels of this love. Attached to that theme were and are issues of food, body image, weight etc… These are the areas in which I chose to learn my lessons and grow in consciousness this time around on planet earth.

There was a time when night time eating  presented in my life as a self sabotaging pattern. My night time eating often resulted in binges on cake, cookies, nut butters and ice cream. As a result I gained allot of weight. This was not a good situation for a girl who back then defined herself by how much she weighed and what she looked like.

I remember one day a friend said to me and I paraphrase: If you know that night time eating is your downfall why don’t you  stop?

Clearly I said to her:  I will stop only when I choose to.

She thought I was crazy. I was always complaining about the weight gain, money spent on binges, my dislike of the behavior and that I wanted change. Yet I was declaring that I wouldn’t do anything about it until I chose to.

Choice is a magical stance. You see we have choice in everything we do and say. When we choose something without limitation or judgment magic happens. 

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Although my night time eating was conducted mostly in a subconscious haze I knew that change was as simple as making a new choice and/or decision.

But at that time I wasn’t prepared to make a clear cut choice. Why?

Because the night time eating and binging served me in strange ways. It helped me deal with emotions; stop feeling them, stuff them down, numb them. The food binges were a method of celebration and soothing despair. Food was my friend, companion and well, my lover when I felt lonely. Food would love me back in that one moment on my lips like no one else was able to including myself. Food binges put me in a sugar coma which would allow me to zone out and check out of life for a few hours. It put me in an unconscious state so that my Spirit could vacate my body and head out to less dense energies and dimensions because it couldn’t handle the heaviness of my life anymore. Food filled my tummy and made me feel full when I didn’t feel full in life. It was something I could do easily for myself when I felt deprived or lack.  Later on the food grounded me when I was moving up the energetic scale so quickly that I felt discombobulated.

Look at all those benefits of night time eating.  As much as I wanted change, I wasn’t going to choose to stop it until I was willing to give up all of those advantages and find more satisfying and fulfilling ways of meeting my needs, like loving myself deeply, exactly as I am, without judgment.

I began my inner work peeling away each layer of the benefits to my night time eating until they had all been brought to consciousness and released. Then I was free to choose without limitation a behavior of eating at night only when truly hungry and  what my body wanted and needed not what my ego mind demanded in order to feel good.

If you are caught in a pattern of trying to draw something into your life and are spinning your wheels, a clear choice or decision without limitations will finally unhinge you and set you free. You will never fail at anything you truly want.

~Love, Esther

 

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Say No To A Healing Crisis

March 7, 2013 By Leave a Comment

Many people go through a healing crisis when they do inner work and release limitations.

Some become ill, shaky, others may experience extra trips to the bathroom or an increase of the symptoms they are releasing. Sleeplessness, need for extra sleep, hunger, lack of appetite, cravings, sweating, anger, sadness, all kinds of waves of emotions rising to the surface are examples of a healing crisis following inner work.

When I first started my journey of growth I went into deep body purging for months.  I was studying Core Belief Engineering and between the study and the practice sessions that my colleagues and I conducted on one another I was overdosing in inner work.

Because I held so many of my beliefs and other limitations in my physical body my body purged. Frequent trips to the bathroom became the norm. At night I would dream that I was clogging toilets. These dreams were my personal sign that I was purging beliefs from my mind. But what was most noticeable to me and those around me was that I started to look old, strained and under stress. As the energy of my limitations rose to the surface for release my face physically changed. I remember a family member saying to me that she thought I was supposed to be getting better but I looked worse. And I did.

I was shocked when I looked into a mirror and honestly I was a bit concerned at one point wondering if I was moving forward or backward. It was only when it was explained to me that sometimes we go through a healing crisis while engaging in inner work did I begin to understand and become at ease with what was happening.

Since that time I have undergone a number of healing crisises and yes those clogging the toilet dreams continue. Shhh… those dreams excite me because I know something big has shifted.

But here is the good news!

As we ground deeper into the 5D world it is no longer necessary to have a healing crisis when we shift and change.

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Because of beliefs and expectations some people still go through a healing crisis.  In certain instances if what you are clearing is heavy and held by the body then you may feel the purge from your cellular system. I have clients release anger, upset and resentment and then experience bouts of those same feelings and emotions immediately after a session much to their distress. I call it a burp after a good meal. But you no longer have to go into a total melt down.

Next time you do a piece of inner work ask Universe: What would it take to experience this shift without a healing crisis? and watch what presents to you.

In the 5th Dimension the energy is lighter and less dense. We move through experiences with more grace and ease. Claim your right to release limitations without a healing crisis; just say No. Shift any beliefs you hold on the subject and intend for instant integration.

~Love, Esther

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What Have You Made Matter So Much That If It Didn’t Matter Everything Would Change?

February 22, 2013 By Leave a Comment

What have you made matter so much that if it didn’t matter everything would change? I ask myself this question all the time and each time I feel a flutter in my stomach and see an image come to mind of exactly what I have made matter too much.

Why do I put myself through such an experience?

What you focus on expands and what you make matter so much you may be creating a resistance or a constriction around. That energy locks you into your current position not allowing change to occur.

By making that issue, desire, problem, wish, situation not matter so much you create an ease, open a flow and this allows Universe to begin to bring to you the information, people, resources and opportunities that you need in order to create what you want.

Within your relationships what do you make matter so much that it is creating frustration, upset and perhaps disharmony?

With your body what do you make matter so much, focus on with such fierce dedication that you are actually blocking the change you desire? For instance you focus on your weight, pain, illness because you hold a belief that by focusing on it fiercely you will create the change or healing that you desire.

What if you made your weight, illness, pain not matter so much, what might be the possibility? When I ask myself that question  my body sighs  in relief and says, “Thank goodness.” I feel a release of pressure, an ease come over my body and intuitively I know that this release, this lack of pressure will actually help me create what I want.

Making something matter can be a limitation; a constricting energy. It is a closed fist stance with no room to receive blessings.

When you no longer make something matter you enter into an energy of surrender. In the energy of surrender you open yourself up to all possibilities.

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Does surrendering and making something not matter mean giving up? Heck no. You can still want what you want just stop the fight, the pressure, the lock down in your energy field around that wish, situation, problem or desire.

Does making something not matter mean that you don’t focus on it, visualize it or hold it in your energy field for co-creation? Of course not.  By all means continue to want what you want just break free of the struggle, angst and pressure of it all. I admit this is fine line stuff but crossing that line from desire and intention to making something matter so much may be blocking you.

Here is another everyday example. I have this point of view that I love when people call me by my first name Esther. It feels personal to me and that feels good.

Recently  I ask someone who I have known for a few months if they knew what my name is.  You see in that time frame while we have chatted and collaborated they have never addressed me by my first name.  And it bugged me because I made it matter. It was starting to bug me so much that when I even thought of seeing or  speaking with this person I could feel an uptight energy come over me. Then I started to notice that I was a different energy when I was with this person because I was bugged that they never called me by my first name, all because I made it matter so much.  I knew I had a choice, continue to make it matter and risk dismantling our collaboration or surrender and let it go.  I chose to let it go and enjoy when others call me by my first name.

Now some of you may be shaking your heads in disbelief but see what happens when you make something matter?

What do you make matter so much in the area of money, relationships, health, career that if it didn’t matter everything would change?

Maybe it’s praise from your employer,  your children cleaning their rooms, husband buying you flowers or picking up towels and socks, having a certain amount of money in your bank account, owning that car, that dress, having a spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, you fill in the blank _____.

What are you making matter so much in your life that if it didn’t everything would change?

Release the beliefs, judgments and limitations holding that issue in place.

Begin to trust that you will be okay no matter what and that Universe is always working on your  behalf co-creating with you the desires of your heart. Surrender. You don’t have to give up, just stop the fight.

Oh by the way that person who doesn’t call me by my first name,  well turns out they do know my name and didn’t realize they never used it. This person thought my question was odd. Go figure :-P  I noticed they don’t call anyone by their first name, it’s their personal pattern. Once I expressed that I would enjoy a Esther reference every once in a while I let it go and our wonderful collaboration continues.

~Love, Esther

  

 

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Are You Afraid To Let Someone Go?

February 11, 2013 By Leave a Comment

 

As you move into more consciousness you begin notice what no longer fits with your new energy vibration. It might be your work, where you live, the places you hang out, what you read, how you dress, your friends, family and other loved ones.

Many people reach out to me expressing angst and worry about letting people go from their lives. I receive emails from women who are moving forward while their husbands stay stuck and they feel the distance. Best friends are drifting apart as one begins to know their True Self and the other remains in the illusion of I’m not good enough. Daughters, sons, moms and dads feel separate from their immediate family members as they grown in grace and consciousness and others hang on for dear life onto a crumbling 3D world.

Does any of this ring true for you sweet being?

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If you are moving forward into more consciousness and awakening to the Oneness that you are and at the same time feel the fear and sadness of letting someone go, here are some suggestions to assist you through the process:

  • Keep in mind that each person is a spirit being who chose to come to planet Earth at this very time of great transformation to shift, change and free themselves from limitation. That person you are afraid to let go of must for their highest and best good be left to live their own personal journey. When they are ready, whether in this lifetime or another they too will shift and change.
  • Begin to look at that person as a wonderful teacher in your life. It is not by accident that the two you have come together. You are teaching them. They are teaching you. Each of you are helping one another in your life experience and perhaps that time of teaching has come to an end. Look at this person as a the wonderful teacher they are and be grateful for all that they have brought into your life.
  • Never allow someone to hold you back from your own growth. Everything is a choice. Choose to continue to move forward and honor the choice of your friend or loved one.
  • Know that because you are becoming distant with someone and no longer feel the connection, it doesn’t mean that is going to last forever. When I receive emails from spouses regarding the growing separation with their partners I remind them not to jump to the conclusion of divorce. While yes that is an option perhaps the relationship is meant to continue. It will be a choice by both parties. People change. Look at the miraculous transformations which have happened over the last year specifically. Your friend, spouse, loved one may change too and quickly.
  • Begin to focus on what you love and adore about that person. When you focus on the distance and what isn’t working anymore each little annoyance increases the gulf of separation. Instead notice how nice it is that your friend always arrives early to get the best table at your favorite restaurant or haunt. Reflect on how nice it is that your husband makes sure your car is maintained and in tip top shape. Glance at your wife and notice her beautiful dress and what a great mother she is. Focus on how your co-worker always takes time to ask you if you need anything before they pop out for a break.  Feel the difference? What you focus on expands.
  • After all the years and lifetimes we have lived now on planet Earth and elsewhere, it is most likely that the people who hold significant roles in your life this time around are spirit beings that you have a great attachment and love for. That person who is your biggest nemesis is most likely one of your Soul Mates/Family who agreed to come to this lifetime and trigger you into breakthroughs, awareness and growth.  And if that someone special does leave your life because you are no longer a fit vibrationally,  rest assured that if not in this lifetime then definitely in the Heavens or in another lifetime you will be reunited and have a good laugh about all of this turmoil.

When you begin to look at people through the lens or focus of eternity, of Spirit Beings loving one another forward and focus on the good, the fear of letting someone go subsides and fades away. And letting go of that fear might be just the ticket to keeping that person around a little while longer. If you choose.

~Love, Esther

 

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